I think nudism and sex does get mixed up sometimes. I think that in Europe and particularly in Germany the people are more in touch with themselves and more comfortable with nudity. I remember walking round the Englische Garten in Munich some years ago. It was full of nudists and naked people just enjoying themselves the same way in which clothed people would. No one batted an eyelid and its probably how nudism was intended to be. I cannot for the life of me imagine the same scene in London's Hyde Park. Well I can, but it wouldn't be pretty.
The point of nudism surely is the sense of freedom and the choice to remove clothes, go for a swim and just generally chill out. I am not sure what all the fuss is about. I wonder sometimes why people go to extraordinary lengths just to get naked even in mid winter when any fool can see its best to wrap up warm.
There is a certain element of voyeurism in naturism. I am convinced of this. Most of it is harmless and mild but endless photos of guys seeking pleasure in having their photos taken - standing straight, arm on hip, staring out to sea - the emphasis on 'look at my willy' is really not a good promotion of nudism in general. Even nude on a beach, I would prefer my lower half left out of the picture but would have no objections to being photographed fully in a group with others naked. I would not like to be photographed posing just for the sake of it. This has nothing to do with not being ashamed or being ashamed of anything.
Nudists who make a habit of this attract ridicule and do naturism no favours. In the United Kingdom there are several nudist beaches. Unfortunately, these beaches inevitably attract the 'man in mac' types and all the nudists tend to be bunched up into some signposted area with big read warning signs as if the occupants of this part of the beach are abnormal. Even more disturbing is that they are almost always against a backdrop of sand dunes. Look closely and you can see the glint of light shining off the array of binoculars and bird watchers amongst the grass - sadly they are not seeking the feathered birds. I am sorry if I paint a sorry and seedy picture of nudism in the UK. There are of course places where you can find secluded locations and out of the way places where you can relax and enjoy nudism as it should be enjoyed.
Having enjoyed naturism in the past in countries where the climate and environment is more condusive to feeling the wind between ones legs, I am not against naturism in any way at all. For me naturism is a personal thing. Perhaps something to be enjoyed with a group of friends or whenever the occassion lends itself. It is not something that will cause me to run off in desperation to find the nearest place to remove my clothes.
So, nudism and sex. The two are tied obviously - I hear you gasp. Look around the internet to try and find a reasonable naturist site such as this one and you find endless exploits of photos of naturists, nudist videos for sale and nudist sites designed for people to come and oggle.
Great if your a voyeur and this is what you want. How many genuine naturists have posted their nude pics somewhere on the net only to find that they end up on some porn site or adult image bank. Failing that, and I am sorry to be blunt, but how many end up decorating someones desktop and objects of lust and desire by people saving money on buying the latest Playboy mag.
Naturists need to be careful. If your footloose and fancy free and really don't give a damn thats fine but what happens when you get married, have kids maybe, and then, lo and behold your 9 year old photo of you naked is found plastered all over some website. Believe me, it happens.
The reason why naturism and sex go hand in hand is the reason we have naturist clubs that do not generally accept single men. The safety and security factor of such clubs provides a better environment for nudists. There are also plenty of 'swingers' who are into naturism in a big way. Naturists attract the wrong types. Its a fact. Another reason why clubs are so popular. Seclusion is a kind of protection. It is such a shame that it has to be this way. If our society were more liberal and we had all become used to naturism and nudism in the parks and streets of our land then perhaps many more would be encouraged to shed their clothing.
And finally, naturism is all about getting back to nature? I am not so sure. What I do find funny is naturists wandering around a supermarket carrying shopping bags, wearing sun shades, a watch, shoes or trainers and not a stitch of clothing. Surely, that was never meant to be. It cannot be too hygienic in a supermarket surely.
30.6.08
Nudism and Sex
Excess Vaginal Wetness - What are Your Options
Vaginal Wetness during Sex: YOU MAY BE WETTER THAN NECESSARY!
Most of us assume that sex is best when wet, but are you feeling as much as you could be from intercourse? Just like a car engine, there is an upper and lower range that is required for maximum performance.
Too much natural lubrication (wetness) during sex reduces pleasure for both partners. Females lose greater stimulation along the vaginal walls. Men lose out on the corresponding 'tight' sensation that they love. We all have an optimum level of friction that is required to enable heightened pleasure for both partners, thus leading to easier climax. This level of stimulation can most easily be obtained by experimenting with your wetness level. Sex could be much more satisfying than what you think it already is.
A woman's wetness level increases naturally as arousal increases. But for some ladies, even the slightest turn-on is enough to produce an extravagant amount of lubrication. If excess wetness is a problem for you, OR if you wish to simply experiment with different levels of wetness, seeking the most pleasurable 'tight' sensation for your man, what can you do?
First, realize that there is more involved in sex than just the intercourse part of it. More women achieve orgasms by clitoral stimulation than by intercourse. However, intercourse is an intimate act & should be satisfying when possible. If it is not enjoyable, then a couple will more than likely become romantically distant. This is the beginning of marriage deterioration.
Secondly, you should see your doctor to be sure there is no infection, abnormalities, or other problem causing your excess wetness, especially if it is something new. Don't take chances!
Medical Options:
The most radical solution to excess wetness is surgery. This should be your last resort, & is rarely necessary. Other medical procedures include freezing or lasering the cervix to reduce secretions, electrical stimulation, & treatment with magnetic fields. These treatments can variously be painful, costly, & time consuming. There is no guarantee of success or that the problem will not return.
Non-Medical Options:
There are numerous options, but few realistic ones. Here are some common things couples try (including some "old wives tales") & comments about their effectiveness.
1) Anything that dries up the mouth. In general, if it dries the mouth, then it will also affect the vagina somewhat. Examples would be decongestants, antihistamines, cold formulas, certain antidepressants, alcohol, cigarettes, & marijuana. While these may work to some degree, wetness & corresponding tightness levels are not controllable, not to mention that a dry mouth is not as tasty during kissing & is more conductive to bad breath due to lack of saliva.
2) Try an Alum Douche. We've heard of this, but don't know any doctor recommending it. Alum acts to contract walls of vagina, but can be irritating & cause yeast infections. There's no way to judge how long it will last nor a way to control the extent of tightening
3) Use a ribbed condom or penis sleeve. Excess wetness remains a problem with or without a condom. Penis sleeves help the man feel more, but tends to numb the woman's vagina after a few minutes, making her uncomfortable.
4) Douche with plain water. This has some impact by reducing the amount of natural lubrication, but the effect tends to vanish as the woman's arousal increases, resulting in secretion of even more lubrication.
5) Insert a sponge or cloth. One of the more embarrassing techniques as it must be done intermittently. Couples find this a big turn off. The technique though, is to wrap a thin sheet/towel around a couple of fingers. Insert the fingers to soak up vaginal wetness. Proceed with intercourse. Repeat as necessary. While this method does work, re-entry of vagina is difficult & painful because this method absorbs ALL the lubrication. Within a few minutes however, as arousal increases again, there will once again be too much wetness. With this method, there is no way of controlling the desired level of wetness & tightness.
6) Use of a fan blowing on the genital area. Not a practical solution, as it primarily results in making the couple cold, while having little impact on internal vaginal secretions.
7) Use of birth control pills. An old wives tale without any validity.
8) Repositioning her body. Certain positions, such as closing of the legs, act to tighten the vagina, but unless the man has a longer than average penis, he will find it far less satisfying due to shallower penetration.
9) Insert an ice cube into the vagina to cause muscle contraction. Another old wives tale, not to mention the obvious discomfort.
10) Vaginal Cones. Very similar in concept to kegal exercises. The idea here is to exercise the vaginal muscles by holding an object inside the vagina by flexing the interior muscles. Increasingly heavier weights can be placed inside. The theory is sound, but females have a difficult time staying on this type of program long enough to be of benefit, not to mention that like any muscle, if it is not continually worked, it will lose its strength. The other disadvantage is that to be of benefit during intercourse, the female must consciously flex her interior muscles, thus taking away from her ability to relax & enjoy the act of intercourse itself.
11) Creams. There are a couple of these on the internet now being marketed under many different names. If you already suffer from excess wetness, adding a cream to the existing problem is not going to help. Manufacturers say the creams have a tightening effect on the vagina within 15-30 minutes, but evidence shows that any NOTICEABLE tightening effects is minimal to none. Application of the cream to the interior walls of the vagina is difficult, embarrassing & must be properly timed to correspond with intercourse. Some of the creams contain benzocaine, alum or Vaseline, none of which are recommended for being inserted into the vagina. To check out more on these creams, look on the internet under 'vaginal tightening.'
12) AbsorbShun natural powder. Is an 'all-natural' powder that either the man or woman can apply to the man's penis. It is simple & quick to use, & has a noticeable moisture absorbing effect within 1-2 minutes. The more powder used, the more absorption, thus allowing the couple to find (and control) their most preferred moisture & tightness level. For more information on this product, go to www.absorbshun.com
Whatever option you choose, you should look for a solution that is satisfactory for both partners. Finding the right level of lubrication can lead to greater sexual pleasure, more frequent sex, & a closer relationship between partners.
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I personally suffered from excess vaginal wetness during sex. It allows little-to-no satisfaction for either partner, by removing most of the feeling during intercourse.
We began our search for a remedy, which literally took years, by visiting our family physician, who referred us to a gynecologist. Upon recieving a clean bill of health, she explained that short of having laser surgery, (which itself is not even guaranteed to last or even work in the first place) there is nothing that can be done.
Not being satisfied with this answer, we continued our search by contacting adult stores and perusing the internet. We came across many 'experts' addressing this very issue with other inquiring females. The typical responses are "be grateful that you don't need a lubricant, most women do" or "Women are supposed to be wet, the wetter the better." These uncompassionate responses simply indicate a lack of understanding as to exactly how much the excess wetness affects our sex, intimacy and relationship in general. We are now experts ourselves in this area.
Learn How To Start Fingering Yourself Today Starting From Scratch
If you masturbate, but you're just not succeeding in pleasuring yourself as much as you deserve to, then this could be once of the most interesting articles you ever read.
In the following article I'm going to detail the first steps required to succeed in fingering yourself, even if you're never done it before, even if don't have any knowledge about it, even if you're just curious.
Lesson 1: Set Aside Some Time Alone:
This is very important (Well each lesson is very important, otherwise I wouldn't bother mentioning it :) ). If you're just starting out, I would recommend that you plan when you are going to do it. When you become more experienced with masturbating, you will easily be able to do it more spontaneously.
Say for example, you plan to try it after work on a Friday night. This way you can take as much time as you want and not have to worry about keeping track of time as you don't have to go to work tomorrow.
Lesson 2: Don't Be Disturbed:
Obviously this one can sometimes be out of your control, especially if you don't live alone. But, a lot of this can be controlled effectively.
The 2 major points that I can think of are, firstly, locking the door. There's nothing more disturbing (Not to mention embarrassing) than being caught masturbating.
Secondly, unplug the phone and turn off your mobile phone. Again, very disturbing and annoying having to pick up the phone while you're "busy".
Lesson 3: Don't Be Afraid To Experiment:
Experimenting is good, so you should do it whenever you feel like it. If you want to try something new, then go for it. As long as it wont cause you any physical pain or damage then try it, you never know what you might discover.
Lesson 4: Create An Atmosphere:
Creating an atmosphere can (And should be) distracting. By this I mean, it should make you feel as though you are in a state of complete relaxation.
How can this be achieved? Easy.
Just put on a soft music cd and perhaps light some scented candles. This is a sure way to put you in a comfortable place.
Lesson 5: Relax, It's Not A Race:
Some people think that they HAVE to have an orgasm while masturbating. Well that's simple not true. Masturbation is about pleasuring yourself.
Orgasms are the climax i.e. the highest point of pleasure during sexual activity, but they are not necessary. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't have an orgasm for a very long time, if at all your first few times.
Just concentrate on how nice it feels and if you have an orgasm, great, but if you don't then don't worry yourself about it, you can always try again later. It's not a big deal.
In time you will know what you like and how you like it, then you can just repeat, over and over again : )
By Stephen Warren
How To Use A Vibrator
There are many different ways to use a vibrator, it is impossible to list them all becuase it lies up to the imagination! Be creative and let your inhibitions go and explore your sexuality to it's full extent. There are however some tips that will ensure a completely satisfying experience:
The first and most important factor in a pleasurable experience is proper lubrication. Always use a water based personal lubricant with your vibrator for comfort and that slippery feel. Natural lubrication is often not enough and that could cause discomfort.
In fact, the major reason why women report that they do not enjoy vibrators is becuase they did not use personal lubricant! Always make sure your personal lubricant is water based because silicone lubricant will ruin silicone vibrators, and petroleum lubricant will ruin virtually any vibrator material. It is safe to use a flavoured lubricant and many women enjoy flavoured lubricant becuase it adds an enjoyable sweet smell. Shop discreetly for personal lubricant at http://www.TheAdultToyShoppe.com.
You can use a vibrator anally but it is not recommended due to the unsanitary aspect of using a vibrator in your anus then inserting it directly into the vagina without proper cleaning first. There are harmful bacteria that could cause infections. You can use a vibrator anally if you wash it with sex toy cleaner first before inserting it into the vagina. It is always best to stay on the safe side and buy anal toys for anal use only and keep your vibrator for vaginal use only.
A Few Tips:
- Never share a vibrator unless you put a condom on it first
- Use a rabbit vibrator upside down, meaning use the clitoral stimulator 'rabbit ears' to stimulate your anus, another erogenous zone for amazing sensations!
- If you are using a waterproof vibrator, make sure the battery case is closed tightly because if water enters, it will ruin the motor, but no, you will not electrocute yourself!
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By Danielle
Discover The Secret Power of Sexual Perception
Let's dive into this stuff right now!
If you want to get the Sexual Perception, you need to do just two things:
1. Send Strong "lust-generating" Signals (achieved by your words, actions, reactions, etc) She needs to get certain messages from you. And each individual message is an ingredient for cooking up a powerful recipe that you are someone she wants sexually. It is the recipe that you are Sexually Desirable.
2. Direct her Mind State - She needs to feel a certain way. If she thinks you are Sexually Desirable, but she doesn't feel a Certain Way at the right time, then she will not be motivated enough to allow anything to happen. You must discover how to sexually inspire her. It really comes down to every word you say (and what that means to her) and how you respond to her (and what that means to her) and how you act around her (and what that means to her) and how you stand out (and what that means to her).
That's the basics.
Remember those two things.
If your sex life is suffering, then chances are your partner doesn't have a strong sexual perception of you. Trying to brainwash yourself into thinking it is something else [(1) she just has a low libido (2) she is getting older (3) her hormones hasn't kicked in yet (4) any very convincing excuse] will preserve your ego.
But...
It WILL NOT solve your existing problem. The fact will still remain that she will not have the Needed & Special Perception that makes her more open to sexual activities.
Being in denial protects your precious ego, but it does not address the real problem.
Remember she is a female designed to crave sex when stimulated a Certain Way. She can get intensely horny even on the lowest peak of her monthly libido cycle!
Fact: Men get intensely stimulated by how a woman looks.
Fact: Women get intensely stimulated by how a man makes her feel & and how she feels about him.
There are too many silly techniques out there that focus on specific scripts or pick up lines - Yes even in 2005.
You need to know the psychology behind the whole process - the reason why. Here's an analogy.
If you live in New York and you want to go to Los Angeles - Would you focus on getting a Red Mercedes Benz, because with it you can drive to LA?
Or would you focus on getting transportation?
Hopefully you realize that focusing on transportation allows for more (or infinite) possibilities...
A Red Mercedes Benz may be cool, but chances are there are more effective ways of getting there. And those ways may be cheaper, quicker, more fun, etc.
I've seen guys (thinly disguises as seduction experts) actually instructing guys to tell women specific scripts. That is the foundation of their instructions.
How insane is that?
That is no different than trying to get to LA from NY by focusing only on trying to use a Red Mercedes Benz as the transportation method.
If you are seeking the solution, the botton line has to be the focus. If you are seeking ways to get sexual perception check out Super Sex Power.
By CR James
What Is A Rabbit Vibrator? Why Are Rabbit Vibrators So Popular?
How To Use A Vibrating Egg or Bullet Vibrator - Why Are They So Good For My Sex Life?
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